HIS PRESENT

Romantic, soft, and sensual you will be the perfect present waiting under the Yule tree for your love wearing Blacklace's new Christmas edition of  Maia.  Available in this lovely copper color and two more traditional Christmas colors with the red or green set.  I paired this with Miamai's Barbarella  Stilettos in gold the beautiful studs on the heel and toe look more like diamondsproviding the perfect amount of sparkle. Classical and sexy Miamai's Barbarella Stilettos are the essential Holiday shoe.  Now I have a jewelry find for you, the designer is Lukrezia Laval and her shop is called Silent Woods.  This little off the beaten path shop offers some of the best jewelry embracing the antique and romantic look you can find.  The truly lovely part is that the prices will not leave you in sticker shock.  I decided on Silent Woods Jheris Collection in Mother of Pearl which went well with the antique lace of Blacklace's Maia.  I finished this look with LeLutka's Moss hair in Powder which is that perfect messy sexy hair, IKON Eternal eyes in Peak, and the Cassiopea skin by Glam Affair.

 

SEXZ @ THE ROCKABILLY FASHION FAIR

Zee of SexZ is just nuts for Rockabilly and who can blame her!  It is fun, edgy, and sexy all in one big package.  Not to mention the great music!  So it is no surprise at all that SexZ is in The Rockabilly Fashion Fair!  This great fair opened on Sunday the 3rd and runs till Nov. 23rd!  Make sure to stop by hunt down the SexZ booth for both of these great breasty gal outfits!  I am in the ..:sexZ:.. KeyholeDress in BlueLeo with Tango appliers.  Allie is in the really nummy ..:sexZ:.. TwistyTop & RawrShorts with Tango and PhatAzz appliers! 

The Rockabilly Fashion Fair

Nov. 3rd ~ Nov. 23rd

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

SEXZ SPIDAH

This I your absolute last chance to get this cute ..:sexZ:..ShirtDress dress on sale at Bewbapalooza!  On the 5th of November this dress heads to the main store and full price!  For all you lovely goth boobie ladies and even those whom are just a little gothy this is a must have dress!  You have five different dresses to choose from and can be used with or without mesh breasts.  I am loving the Spidah dress.  To cute!  Make sure you hurry because the clock is ticking!  Tick Tock!

   oYo BeWbAPaLoOZa oYo

IMMERSE IS BACK

Just a quick little blog to announce that my friend Lilly Juno is back and her store Immerse is open for business!  She is starting up again with a great release in the  Autumn Meadows Chair.  This chair comes in 4 colors and has a cute back pillow to snuggle into with wonderful animations for both male and female.  Today all four versions of this chair are on sale for 75L each.  Pick them up today because tomorrow they go back to the normal price of 300L soon!

IMMERSE

WATCHING YOU.

Have you ever felt like someone was watching you?  I have.  It is disturbing and makes you look around as you go about your life.  You stand in the dark and stare out the window trying to glimpse the person you can feel staring.  People call you paranoid and then one day you realize that you may be paranoid but somebody IS watching you!  Staring into your house while you go about your business.  Following you as you shop, work, and spend time with those you love.  The photographs start arriving and finally you loose it!  You buy a big dog named Killer, a gun, and a new alarm system.  You change your routine, leave your job, sometimes your employer asks you to leave, or fires you because it is not only affecting you but everyone you work with. Finally you become so desperate you move and then somehow the person always finds you and the terror starts all over again. 

Over 3 million people are stalked every year.  Millions are stalked online alone.  It is one of the most terrifying experiences you could ever go through.  There is a truth that people do not want to admit, stalking and violent crimes are linked.  Stalkers purposely try to ruin their victims lives by starting false rumors, and making a concentrated effort to sabotage their victims work and personal lives.  I took these pictures at first because they were unique and I needed to blog my friend Zee's items.  Then I sat back thinking about when I was stalked and the terror I experienced.  In the end I could not do this blog light heartedly. 

I have been stalked twice in my life.  Once by an ex who kidnapped my cats and threatened myself and my family with violence.  He made an effort to spend time with anyone who had any link with me at all.  He would call my workplace and show up unexpectedly at restaurants, bars, or at friends homes.  I remembered the effort my friends and mother made to drive me to and from work.  One friend even going as far to sit all night outside my house so I would sleep.  I remember how dismissive the police officer was when my stalker crashed a friends car outside my house.  The heart stopping feeling when I was told how he would sit across the street in the park and dry fire a gun at my head.  He had some of my brothers convinced that I was delusional and that he loved me.  He convinced them that he was the injured party in our relationship.  It ended badly but I survived and have learned to live through what happened.  I like to think that I even thrive.

The second time was online and the man told me where I lived.  Described my house to me and told me everything he could find online about me.  I would log in to chat with friends and suddenly there he was.  It ended because a good hearted hacker took action.

Honestly thinking and writing about this makes my heart pound, and I find it hard to breath.

We have even witnessed stalking in SecondLife.  Very public cases endured by the BOSL founder and the BOSL staff , and also very private cases amongst our friends and virtual family.  I have even had friends close their accounts and have to create new avatars to escape their tormentors or just leave SL never to return because they were afraid to log in.   Here are some facts that we all should know.  More women then men are stalked totaling 67 percent of all cases.  Women are usually stalked by men but women stalk women also and men face the same terror when they are victims of stalking.  If you think a woman is incapable of violence then you are mistaken.  I urge you all to educate yourselves and visit Futures Without Violence, WebMD article: How to protect yourself from a stalker., and Cyber Stalking Prevention .  Everyone deserves a life lived without terror be it physical or virtual. 

I need to apologize to Zee the owner of SexZ.  I had started these photos to blog her items and in the end they became an educational tool.  In no way does Zee or her store SexZ condone stalking or violence.  She is a strong powerful woman whom I have immense respect for. 

Keep yourself safe in this world and the physical world.  No one can do it for you.  Be proactive for yourself.

Kalia

 

 



 

I WANT CANDY

 

Oh my events and happenings all over the grid.  First is this cute MagAnimal on my shoulder from Miamai for the Wizarding Faire 2013.  I am not sure how long this lasts so I would head over this weekend.  Next is 1 Hundred. with the super adorable Sweet Princess Dress and Sweet Princess Headband at  The Candy Fair.  The Candy Fair runs from Oct 4th to the 18th!  Also 1 Hundred. is in The Body Modification Expo  which runs from Oct 10th to Nov 3rd.  1 Hundred. has a tattoo at the Expo called Love Stinks.  You can get this tattoo for either your chest or thigh.  Each version comes with either Tango or PhatAzz appliers.  Zuri Rayna has Antique Pearls for a group gift right now and N-core finishes this off with their group gift Pink Floral Mesh shoes!  When you add all the pieces together you come up with this!  Now where is my lollipop?  I want Candy! 

 

CAT EYES @ EARTHSTONES

One of the aspects of Secondlife that I love is the ability to change how your avatar looks.  But.. yes there is always a but!  No matter what you look you strive for, the eyes you choose to wear can make or break the final creation.  In the physical world eyes are a window into the soul and this holds true for your avatar, nothing is more disappointing then when you look at this amazing avatar and their eyes are flat with no character.  It is like they just opened up the library section of the inventory and picked eyes made in 2003, it completely kills the effect.  So when EarthStones released the Cat Eyes Collection I was very excited to see what Abraxxa had created.   After unpacking a small selection of the 13 color available I wore the Sapphire Cat Eyes and was floored.  These eyes are gorgeous!  The depth and richness of color are perfectly blended with a precisely placed light reflection.  I love how the eyes also have a subtle sheen on them alluding to moisture.  These eyes will add character to your avatars look and are out just in time for the Halloween season. 

Cat Eyes @ EarthStones

EarthStones Cat Eyes - Demonic

EarthStones Cat Eyes - Golden Amber

EarthStones Cat Eyes - Emerald

EarthStones Cat Eyes - Silver

EarthStones Cat Eyes - Sapphire
Cat Eyes @ EarthStones

The Cat Eyes come in lens case packaging that held my hand out as it automatically unpacked, totally negating the need for me to place out a prim to unpack.   This packaging can be placed out in your home on the bedroom dresser or bathroom sink to help create more visual interest. 

Cat Eyes @ EarthStones





My Skin is Glam Affair - Dark Side - Ginny 06
My Hair is [e] Caramel
My Ears are .:: TBP ::. Elf Ears (not available)

TANTRA, A TALK WITH TEX EVANS



Tantra Total Woman HUD helped me get pregnant.

Enjoying a beautiful Autumn day at Skye Neist Point I snapped this photo.  I decided to share because it completely captures the beauty the Tantra HUD has brought into my life.  The focus of this blog is the following interview.

I have been mentioning the Tantra Total Woman HUD in several of my blogs.   When I first started using the HUD I had many questions and the creator Tex Evans was more then willing to spend time answering them.  He is a kind gentlemen who then graciously allowed me to poke into the motives and reasoning behind his creation of the Tantra Hud, and even into his personal life.  Tex discovered Secondlife through Wired magazine 7 years ago and was intrigued finding his way to SL he has been a steady user since. 

Kalia:  What inspired you to create the Tantra Total Woman HUD? Was it a gradual realization to do this or an light bulb moment?
Tex:  The Tantra Total Woman HUD was inspired by a friend of mine.  She was a true "risk" role player.  She loved the excitement of taking a chance, but never wanted to be pregnant.  For her, getting pregnant was the consequence of a lost gamble.  Her excitement transferred to me and awoke a desire inside of me as well.   Initially, each month we would roll the dice offline to see what happened, but after a few times of this, I decided to bring it into game and developed a simple pregnancy test where you told it what you did each day of your fertile time.  This gave way to automatically detecting the events during the cycle and after a lot of medical research and adding features, I eventually realized that there might be a few other people who would enjoy our type of role play.  When I first released the Tantra, I never imagined it would become as big as it has become.  But I'm just happy so many people enjoy it.

Kalia:  When you first started the process of creating the Tantra HUD were there any complications to the process?
Tex:  I have been writing code for a long time, so the technical aspects weren't too complicated.  The hardest thing was developing the conception model, and I spent several months reading through the medical literature to find the correct statistics.  Some of the statistics were not necessarily apples to apples, so I had to make some educated assumptions on how to convert them into something that could be coded into SL and develop some statistical models that converted the methods I could code in SL to give a realistic approximation to the real life statistics.

Kalia:  Did you anticipate the impact the Tantra HUD would have on second life and it's citizens?
Tex:  That was something that caught me off guard.  I figured that maybe 10 or 20 people would be interested in the Tantra when I released it.  I never anticipated that it would be as big of a success as it has been.  Even now, I never log in expecting to make money, or really treat Tantra like a business.  I work on Tantra for my own personal enjoyment.  I would continue working on it, even if it was only used by me and my friends. But, I have had several messages from women who can not have children in real life and how they loved being able to realistically experience pregnancy in Second Life, starting by using my HUD.  That has made all my work so worthwhile to hear that what was initially a toy to me, has meant something very special to someone else.

Kalia:  Do you have any plans to expand the product line?
Tex:  Right now, my focus is on improving the main Tantra HUD.  There are so many different areas where I would like to tailor the product for different communities, including the Furry and Gorean communities, but those aren't the only ones.  I have several accessory products that I am working on that cater to the risk role play community. 

Kalia:  Has the blossoming industry focused on pregnancy in SL been a surprise for  you?
Tex:  That is another surprise.  When I started, there was only a few clinics.  It has grown so much, and most of he clinics put a lot of effort on making the pregnancy experience a good one for their patients.

Kalia:   If you were to go back to the beginning of your second life would you create the Tantra HUD all over again?
Tex:   Most definitely.

Though never married in SL, Tex has had children with close friends in world and his work with the Tantra HUD has blossomed into a desire to have children in RL.  I think the truest indicator of the man behind the pixels is when I asked him what moment made all the work creating the Tantra HUD worth it. 

Tex:  Going back to what I mentioned earlier, the women who I was able to give them something in SL that they couldn't have in real life.

He answered my questions candidly and I wish to say thank you to Tex for spending a bit of time letting us get to know the man behind the Tantra HUD.   If you wish to learn more about the Tantra Hud itself I delve into it in my blog PLUS SIGN!. 

You can find out more about this hud here:

http://tantratotalwoman.com/index.html

To buy on MP:

Tantra Total Woman HUD

To buy in world:

Tantra Total Woman HUD

 

 

A quick note on styling

the top is Tits Up 

the hat hair is Maitreya 

 the jacket is from [NV]
skin is from Glam Affair

leggings are not available.

 

 

 

COOKIE CRAVING

This weekend Allie and I were working on the photo layout for sexZ's GOING BUST  item the Bandleader Set, when I decided I wanted chocolate chip cookies.  Allie has been a doll during my pregnancy, I believe she probably has been going insane but is hiding it well.  I will call her up complaining about morning sickness then she shows up with a pot of mint tea and saltine crackers.  Then in the afternoon I will sometimes crave something odd and either Riot or Allie will run out finding me what I am craving with a smile.  It amazes me when they show up with the focus of my craving and this has become a game.  I pick the strangest item I can just to see if they can find it!  It was an easy craving to solve this time because I wanted chocolate chip cookies.  I think I could hear both Riot and Allie sigh in relief.  Now I know it sounds like I am torturing them but honestly I am not.  Women do crave things while pregnant from the ordinary to the extreme strange.  We head down to the kitchen to make chocolate chip cookies using the mesh La Galleria Dinner Party Kitchen.  This kitchen is very nice and has a ton of options among them baking cookies.  Riot joined us in the kitchen making his comments about how beautiful my baby belly is in one breath. The next breath he is informing us that we look silly making cookies in our underwear and even telling us at point we were making them wrong.  I reach out to taste the cookie dough when Allie smacks my hand. I look at her asking why did she smack me?  She calmly replied because of the raw eggs.  Of course I had to argue about the odds of getting salmonella from raw eggs and she smiled stating that it does not matter she will not let me have it.  Thinking I was being cleaver I brought Riot into the argument.  He said without missing a beat that if I even touch raw cookie dough while pregnant with his child he would spank me!  This is no bueno!  Seriously spank me?  He sleeps eventually!  I crossed my arms and pulled a face while they stood their ground.  Finally I relented accepting a cup of hot cocoa and a warm cookie.  The cookies were delicious!  Riot ate half the plate making a comment about bloggers, even pregnant bloggers, can not indulge in to many sweets because the camera adds ten pounds.  Grrrr.  So here is the photo of Allie and I in the ..:sexZ:.. Bandleader Set.  These are really adorable with a pink accent bows and appliers for Lola Tango/Mirage breasts and PhatAzz.  GOING BUST  ends at midnight so run right to Cleavage!  Oh by the way I did sneak some dough when they were searching for mini marshmallows for the cocoa.  Grins.

 ..:sexZ:..-Bandleader Set @ GOING BUST 

A SURPRISE MATERNITY ALTERNATIVE @ LIVGLAM

I have discovered a point in my virtual pregnancy that is very difficult.  I will call it the, "YOUR SCREWED" stage.  It is the point between I am to large for regular clothing, other then clothing layers, and to small for the big belly stage mesh clothing.  It is a difficult spot to be in.  I would just sport the big belly clothes and be done with it but Riot enjoys the gradual progress and changes to my shape.  I have also thought I was completely insane for deciding to blog about this pregnancy and if I had not committed myself I truly believe I would be on adult sims running amok nude as nude can be.  You laugh but I guarantee that right now all my close friends are recalling when I left Gor where I rped as a Free Woman and spent the next month or so streaking.  Riot put a stop to it when we got together.  Imagine that!  Back to the growing belly.  So it is growing and honestly cute.  It is not to big nor to small and at this moment looks like a little pot belly of overindulging in pizza and beer.  Because of this I am still looking for alternatives in the fashion world.  I was working on The Autumn Effect hunt and was at LivGlam when I came across a second hunt gift.  I opened it and behold there was a cute dress.  Now even though I can easily change my shape to wear what I wish, my Tantra hud puts the proper shape right back on me every time I log in.  After 3 crashes you finally just give in to the SL gods and accept that you have to much belly for those cute mesh jeans.  Plus it is cheating to change your shape, pregnant women in the physical world do not have that option.  That being said I slipped on the dress without an alpha and was completely surprised, my belly did not show.  I double checked the size and swung my camera around realizing that indeed this dress could pass for an early stage maternity dress.  I was so pleased I ran right home and styled it.  One of my biggest fears doing this blog is that I will affect the sales of designers negatively.  No one wants to hear that the cute outfit they created can be used to help a woman look pregnant, but as a pregnant woman in SL I want to say thank you LivGlam for this one dress!  I could only pray you would intentionally create more designs for maternity because pregnant women wish to be fashion forward and stylish.  So here is the dress completely styled. 

See you Shopping,
Kalia




LivGlam


Wake Me Up Dress by LivGlam (HUNT)
Candy Skin by Glam Affair @  The Arcade (EVENT)
Paradise Sandals by Belgravia
Lolwa Hair by CaTwA
Feet & Nails by Slink
A01 Clutch by (MN) (Closed)
Tahitian Pearls by .:: TBP ::.(Closed)
Landscaping Elements by Heart Garden Centre
Photo Shot on location @ Heart Garden Centre

NOTE:  I know using items that are not longer available is somewhat discouraging.  I use them because I love them and to foster ideas.  There are valid and beautiful alternatives for sale all over the grid and on marketplace.

CALLING FALL

Autumn is beautiful and is the time when we pull out our sweaters, boots, and scarfs.  Our wardrobes taking on rich complexity with the need to layer.  Mornings are cold and by afternoon our sweaters are shed for the last moments of warmth. We take time for those things that are precious like walks in the fall rain and sharing the bounty of our harvests.  I have always seen Autumn as an incarnation of the Goddess,  Her beauty a mantle She lays upon the world preparing for the coming winter.  She walks upon the earth calling fall, taking back the life, wrapping it within the darkness to nourish Herself and eventually us.  It is a moment for everyone to realize that even as we near our own winters we are still beautiful magical creatures, that we are complex in color and diversity like fall itself.   When coming up with this photo concept I wanted to show my beliefs and show the intense beauty of nature.  First it was a choice on whether or not to use my pregnant shape only to discover that it was a rather easy choice.  The Mother carries within Herself the seeds of new life buried within the black soil waiting for their turn to reach towards the sun.  To symbolize the earth I picked Miamai's new Lora Gown in black.  The earth protects and nurtures us, every farmer will tell you that the darkest blackest earth is the richest for planting and in the Path of the Wise the color black means protection. I would also like to point out the color black is the presence off all colors and yet the absence of all light, something we personally experience as our nights grow longer and the light fades.  Mabon has passed and now we move towards Samhain the wheel ever turning through the year.  I urge you to enjoy the bright flash of beauty that is Autumn. Walk amongst the trees a they fall into their sleep, the leaves turning colors to eventually fall, and prepare for you own coming hibernation.



Lora Gown in Black by MIAMAI (NEW)
Candy Skin by Glam Affair @  The Arcade (EVENT)
Rykiel Hair by Lelutka
Cycle in Heaven Jewels by PurpleMoon Creations
Tula Crown by Evie's Closet
Long Fur Gloves by Gabriel
Black Leather Ankle Boots by Bax Coen Designs
Supreme Pose by PosESioN (NEW)
Gold Diamond Tennis Bracelet by Hogarth Designs Store(closed)
Fire Eyes (custom not available)
Landscaping Elements by Studio Skye
Photo Shot on location @ Epicosity Rentals

NO ONE CALLS US BIMBOS!

Allie and I had to teach someone a little lesson recently.  We were standing in her house changing for the blog shot when I was faced with a problem.  My belly has grown a wee bit so nothing fits!  To make me feel better Allie took off her cute jeans promising to stay in her panties till I found something that fit.  We are standing there minding our own business when her neighbor shows up and spouts off, "What are you bimbos doing now?"  Excuse me!  Allie pulled out her shotgun while I found my Desert Eagle and katana.  We taught Mr. Jerk Face a little lesson.  First do not call women who know how to PVP bimbos!  Second do not do it on land that is damage enabled!  Idiot.  We sent him home with his tail between his legs followed by enough insults to emasculate an entire army.  Oh well lesson learned.  That is when I realized that this was the perfect way to show you the really cute SnugSweaters by ..:sexZ:....!  Allie has on the Camo one for GOING BUST  and I have on the pink one for BEWBAPALOOZA. If you want one of the Camo versions at a great discount get to GOING BUST by midnight slt tonight.  You have a little more breathing room to grab one of the solid versions at  BEWBAPALOOZA, but not allot so make this a priority!

THE BARONS MISTRESS

Sometimes I get creative with my styling.  I mix and match until I am satisfied saying yes this is what I wanted.  My most recent foray into my Narnia closet aka my inventory was prompted by a desire to style the Barons Top Hat by Miamai.  This wonderful hat is only available at FaMESHed and is unisex.  Miamai provided options for the Barons Top Hat including texture change hat band, texture change hair, and color change on the metal, plus a no hair option which is nice for the guys.   So I opened my closet and thought for a minute recalling the Sparkle Dress I had purchased about 3 years ago from a little shop called {COR} which has since closed.  I slipped on the skirt then dug a little deeper finding a goth dolly dress by Adoness called Lady Butterfly that I picked up during the store hunt held awhile ago.  I put on the shimmering butterfly bodice, collar, and arm adornment plus the matching nails all accented with butterflies.  I needed to smooth the transition between the skirt and the bodice, so back into wonderland I went because the look was demanding a corset.  I had to try on six different corsets before I could settle on the one by Sakide that comes in the Brocade Corset Dress.  A little eye liner from Oceanes, my Slink addon shoes by Belgravia, Earthstones Lexi Earrings,  and the look was complete. 

 

I was at a loss for a location for my photographs when my sister Shi reminded me that an amazing new formal venue recently opened called Phat's Premier Jazz Club.  I teleported to the sim and found myself immediately greeted by a hostess whom helped me acquire my membership to the club then directed me to the ballroom.  I spent some time listening to the music as I meandered around discovering not only the main ballroom but a theater and hidden shops.  Several points of interest include the Premier Wine Cellar, the lake, waterfalls, patio, yacht, and an outdoor events venue.  I found Phat's to be a wonderful location and well worth the cost of the membership.   The staff is pleasant, polite, and not intrusive on your enjoyment but always ready to help or converse with the patrons.  The building itself brings to mind an old manor house resplendent in her antiquity and inspired my choice oh photography style.  When at Phat's make sure your sky is set to estate time to enjoy the amazing Northern Lights.  I am sure that this is one location that a low intensity and low radius face illuminator will be over looked.  Just remember a good illuminator will provide you light and not your partner!  An alternative is to find the winlight setting called blackskymoon which will create the effect of an illuminator without the intrusion to others.  It was a pleasure to share Phat's Premier Jazz Club with you and give you a glimpse into my creative styling around Miamai's Barons Hat.

See you shopping,
Kalia

RUFFLEGRRL

We have two cute version of the ..:sexZ:.. RuffleGrrl dress to show you today!  One is for Lubbly Jubblies and the other is for the American Bazaar AB's Power of 3! Hunt for their 3rd Anniversary.  I have on RuffleGrrl PlumFloral which is the hunt item and Allie is in the RuffleGrrl CandyStripes available at Lubbely Jubblies. 



BACK2SKEWL 4 COMBAT

Thanks to the little hiccup with SL I was prevented from catching up on my blogs so I have a last minute item to show you.  ..:sexZ:.. has put out the Back2Skewl Plaid Crop Tops for  GOING BUST which ends tonight!  These are adorable tops that can be worn with mesh breasts or without if you so please.  I decided on Norsim for this photo and felt inclined to arm myself as the combat and role play was going strong.  I leaned against the fence and watched awhile then headed to the safety of my home.  If you want this top on sale get to GOING BUST before midnight SLT!  If you want some great role play and combat, head on over to Norsim! 

 GOING BUST

 

Norsim is the"War of The Armageddon Roleplay and Combat" sim

using the UCE meter.  To learn more about the races and the game visit Norsim.

WEBSITE

landofnor.com 

Online forums of Norsim and a great way to learn more.

DOLL COLLECTION

I am wearing Oceane Body Design's Ella skin which is beautiful.  I found it to be a great canvas to show you the new Oceane makeup releases Bollywood and XTina.  These makeups are stunning and not Oceane skin specific, so they will work well on any natural skin.  I went with the chocolate makeups not only because they looked delicious on me, but delightfully match my voodoo doll.  Now is probably a great time to admit that I have a rather large collection of these dolls in Secondlife.  The sheer fact that so many designers have taken the time to make them astounds me.  This particular doll is part of the Adorkable Poses Sweet Revenge pose set and is a personal favorite of mine!  Is the voodoo doll named Riot? Smiles...I am sure if you asked him he would go on and on about the voodoo doll with his picture attached to the face.  What?  It was a joke!  Maybe.... Where was I?  Oh yes Oceane Body Design also has released a beautiful limited skin named Denise with only 75 copies of Denise on the grid.  Denise comes in 5 skin tones and 4 brow colors.  Each skin pack has in it 1 normal breast skin and 1 cleavage option, brows, 2 brow shapers, and pubic hair.   Oceane will be releasing the Denise shape soon but no word yet if it will be a limited shape.

I am wearing a jewelry collection from Earthstones that you can only purchase right now by joining the Earthstones group.  Let me back track here a minute.  Earthstones is a pay for group that takes up a group slot.  With this membership you get immediate access to the group gifts which are located by the front desk.  These gifts alone will more then reimburse you for the nominal cost of the group but then you also get the keys (group tag) to the VIP lounge.  This lounge is accessed through a doorway behind the desk and it is here that VIP members find the Lexi Necklace and Earrings for a jaw dropping 99L each.  Lexi is the perfect accent for any casual styling you could dream up and I love the fact that the Lexi necklace is short enough to wear with my tangos.  This VIP special will end in the next couple of days so I would suggest heading down there as soon as you can. 

 

 

Click pictures for a closer look.

~Oceane~ Ella Natural skin Vanilla Tan Normal Redhead Frex

aDORKable Poses: Love or Voodoo?

(Pose no longer available)

 

 

EarthStones Lexi Necklace - Opal Mosaic

EarthStones Lexi Earrings - Opal Mosaic

~Oceane~ Bollywood ES Choco

 

 

~Oceane~ XTina ES Choco

 

 

 

DENISE LIMITED SKIN 

(ADD SHOTS BY OCEANE)

 

SICK SLUG

Since I mentioned in my previous blog the way I have spent my time in SL, I felt that it was a picture I should have shared.  So here it is my sick slug look.

This morning my hud informed me I was on day 12, approximately 5 weeks pregnant rl.  This bit of information lead to a discussion with Riot and we decided the experience was going to be rushed.  The average woman is pregnant 40 to 42 weeks.  Granted being 42 weeks pregnant means you are overdue but being overdue is not uncommon.  So we did some math and decided that 3 rl days should equal a sl week.  That puts our baby due in 120 days which is roughly half the time of a RL pregnancy.  So now the baby is due on December 8th and I am at week 4.  The beauty of the Tantra Total Woman HUD is that you can change your due date if the need arises.  You simply set out the Due Date Setter which is a huge pink cone, click it, then type in your desired due date in an easy year, month, date format.  It talks you through the entire process and confirms at the end or tells you it timed out.  The Due Date Setter comes with the Tantra Total Woman HUD and should be used at the beginning of the pregnancy and to adjust the due date as needed.  There are reasons in SL for the need to change your due date and I will get into these needs in a future blog.

Now back to my sick slug look which oddly Riot found incredibly sexy.  I am wearing EMO-tions Loredana hair, the Bodacious Tank from *BOOM*, Schadenfreude new Polka Dot Knee High Socks for Slink Feet, and Sn@tch  Sydney Lace Panties.  Now to make sure everyone understands.  I am in no way inferring these items are in any way bad.  Just the opposite since I purchased them because I thought they were adorable!

Tantra Total Woman HUD

http://tantratotalwoman.com/index.html

MATERNITY SHOPPING FIRST LOOK & SHAPES

Month 1 (SL time first 10 day period)

During this first month of pregnancy I have been contemplating that in SL a pregnancy is only about 1/3 of the time a real pregnancy, if not shorter.  Such a small duration of time actually and unlike rl we have a hud that says you are in day 1 of your pregnancy so we know as soon as the cycle is missed.  If SL was like RL I would just now be figuring out something was up.  A missed cycle and subjective symptoms that I would have been mistaking for stress, lack of sleep, bad food, or even the flu.  These symptoms include tiredness, breast changes (here come the big breasts!), nausea, bloating, and a slight rise in body temperature that can be mistaken for a fever to name a few.  Hence why most of us think we are sick at first.   I spent my first ten days like I would have spent the month rl by wearing a shirt, socks, panties, and my hair pulled back in a messy bun while I lounged about.  I am a miserable sick person to be honest and turn into a slug better left alone.  Of course I could muster myself to go shopping since some things must be done no matter how icky you feel and because in SL the benefits to knowing you are expecting from day 1 are clothes shopping, and getting your shapes ready.

I started taking a good look at maternity clothes and found myself spending hours in Marketplace wondering how this shirt will look or that dress.  After my first look through the selections and I will be brutally honest,  I was left completely disappointed by the lack of selection though I did find some cute clothes.  Pregnant women wish to be beautiful, stylish, and not feel like the clothes we have to wear were made before SL introduced all the wonderful tools designers now have.  If you wear Lolas Tango your choices just got cut even more.  So I went shopping for regular clothes that would fill the gap for a little bit.  Sn@tch to the rescue!  I love Ivey Deschanel's designs.  I went to her store and found the Heidi Dress I am wearing in her riot vendor and snagged it for an amazing price.  While there one of her lucky boards came up a K and I was able to get the Sn@tch Crystal Gypsy Jewelry Set for free.  Shop around and do not get focused on having to buy maternity items I encourage all women expecting in SL to try on any mesh clothing without the alpha on.  Flip through your shapes and when your belly is just peaking out of the mesh that is how long you can wear the outfit.  If you buy the item you are trying on, make a notation on a notecard, and/or put it in a special folder.  The Heidi dress will carry me through month 3 but is the perfect late summer romantic top to pair with a cute set of leggings and sandals.

In SL we have allot of body designers who offer pregnancy shapes and you can find several shapes for free.  The amount of shapes you use is completely a personal preference.  I went with 9 and did some research on how my body would be changing.  First I had visited stores looking for a shape that was close to my height and looks but eventually decided to make my own.  Each woman carries a child in their own distinctive way.  Unfortunately SL makes this option very limited so that leaves us turning to prim, sculpt, and mesh bellies.  You think finding clothes was hard before now it becomes almost impossible using a visual belly attachment.   After making my shapes I set up my RLV folders and my Tantra Total Woman Hud  to use the RLV to auto switch through the shapes as my pregnancy progresses.  This was surprisingly easy!  The Tantra Total Woman Hud  site gives very clear directions and they have photos for you to compare to.  This RLV feature is wonderful because I do not have to worry about changing the shape and as in rl suddenly I have grown out of my clothes.  I love the fact that I logged on and my shape changed slightly, I giggled over my breasts popping a little out of my mesh.  Each little change is exciting to me and to my husband Riot.  He made me laugh when he role played bending over to my belly and said,  "Hello in there, we can't wait to meet you!"  Yes I am smiling as I write this.  He is amazing and supportive.  I wonder if he is going to put on empathy fat?

I am wearing Cutie Patootie Capri's from Custom iNKZ , Sn@tch Heidi Tube Dress, and Slink  Lulu Stilettos (Addon). My jewelry is EarthStones Nose Stud & Dark Alchemy Bridal Set, MAXI GOSSAMER  Damask Bangles, and Sn@tch  Crystal Gypsy Jewelry Set. My shapes is my own, my skin is Glam Affair, my hair is Jasmine by Lelutka, my nails are Slink Avatar Enhancement Fingernails, and my feet are Slink Enhancement Medium Feet.

These items I am listing separately because they are part of The Black Fair 2013 and are free gifts or at the least under 50L. Eyeliner is [CIA] Graphic eyeliner Black.  My ring is MG Black Roho, my clutch is the Ariskea Trinity mesh clutch in Purple night, and my manicure and pedicure are[theSkinnery]Slink Carbon Finger & Toe nails Appliers.  You can find these items and many more at
The Black Fair 2013.

*I want to make a small comment about pregnancy rl.  It is very important that if you are expecting to see a doctor within your first 13 weeks and see a doctor 13 times during your pregnancy.  I can not stress how important this is to both you and your unborn child.  Please visit these sites to help.  They have been a world of information in my quest to educate myself for my SL pregnancy.
March of Dimes 
The Baby Center
What To Expect
Plus many other blogs, websites, and education material that you can find in a simple search.

 

PLUS SIGN!

Holding the new 1 use only Tantra Pregnancy Test. 


 

In the beginning this was a very personal choice.  Something we would only share if it was found out by seeing us out and about on the grid.  Then I started thinking about the lack of fashion for expecting mothers in SL so I decided that if I found a cute outfit or an alternative to maternity wear I would blog it.  Then I started thinking about the reasons we decided to do this.  Suddenly I thought about all of the times someone made a comment about pregnancy in SL and most of them were not flattering.  We as people make snap judgments or think someone is being silly.  Is someone choosing to have a family in a virtual world any more silly then just logging into SL to live a life within it?  People make these choices for many reason and in this amazing world we can do, and be, what ever we wish.   Suddenly the beauty of this virtual world we inhabit manifest itself to me.  I a woman whom will never carry life within, will never know the joy of holding my own children can at the very least experience part of the joy and misery of expecting a child thanks to SL. In SL I have beautiful children whom are all quirky and wonderful, I have siblings whom have been my family for years now, I have nieces and nephews whom I adore.  I have a beautiful husband who is my love in both worlds.  I however have made this choice and in an odd mirror of the real world it is my choice in the end, it is my body even though it is pixels.  I choose to get pregnant and set my foot on a path unsure what the future holds. 

So first came the decision of how to go about this.  A search on marketplace left my head spinning but as with almost anything in SL a hud and possibly a pose was needed.  I took a deep breath and started reading each page then I came across the Tantra Hud.  The more I read about this system the more I liked it.  Real odds, birth control, even the chance that the birth control might fail!  I read with fascination about the hud taking you through a true cycle complete with menstruation.  ((Note it is just a time allotment with no particle effect!  Which as a woman I must say that some things in SL are better then the RL!))  I read how the man may purchase a condom hud but can get free basic ones from the store.  I read how the hud responds to Xcite, Sensations, REALASM, or Midnight Lotus brand male genitals.  I suddenly remembered my sister and her ex husband, yes we even have ex husbands in SL, trying to get pregnant with another hud.  Him flying over her head swooping in to impregnate her.  After laughing I decided that I definitely wanted the Tantra hud because to create a baby it had to come from an act of lovemaking.  So off we went to the main shop and a hud was purchased.  I put it on and set up a realistic 28 day cycle with a 2 day variance. 

The first month goes by and nothing.  I found a 1 prim box of tampons and bought them leaving them where my husband could see them so he would know we were not pregnant.  As soon as he could he doubled his efforts in getting me pregnant and then one day I logged in and looked at the hud.  The yellow line was all the way up to late and suddenly I just knew I was pregnant in world.  I did not need the red late line to tell me, I just knew!  After a simple to use but nerve wrecking test the results were in and we were virtually pregnant.  So now the path has our feet placed on it and each day the hud tells me how far along I am.  I find myself researching what I would be experiencing and in awe of the miracle of life.  Mostly I find the support, the love from our friends and family amazing.   For Riot and I this was the right option and I am blessed in his love. 

You can find out more about this hud here:

http://tantratotalwoman.com/index.html

To buy on MP:

Tantra Total Woman HUD

To buy in world:

Tantra Total Woman HUD

 



New Tantra HPT a 1 use Pregnancy Test that changed its name to
Tantra HPT:Kalia Anatine is Positive on 2013-08-14

Tantra Total Woman HUD 3.00

Tantra HPT 3.0
(This version of the pregnancy test was free and can rez a new copy as needed)

Tantra Condom HUD 2.00
Tantra Condom HUD Box of 12
Note: Tantra Gold Condom HUD gives the man more options.
Among them sabotage of your birth control!

Tantra Paternity Test 2.00
Note:  When using a clinic they can access this information.
However they must keep all information confidential
or loose their right to work with Tantra.



My hair is Claudedette by Wasabi Pills at c88 right now, the skin is Glam Affair, the eyes are Ikon, the dress is Kala by Sakide.  The house is [ba] carraway bungalow at c88 right now and the sink is from Dutchie.

BREATHLESS

"Let me be your moonlight

When your sun nods off to sleep

Let me be the love

You in secret get to keep" 

Breathless is a word that conveys so much meaning.  The literal meaning is to be without breath.  When I walked into the dungeon he fell to his knees and held his breath.  I looked down smiling as I sat upon my throne and called him to me.  He asked permission to touch me, I chuckled, and made him wait.  When I granted his wish he reached out sensually tracing the silk of my bodysuit.  He smiled whispering that I was beautiful and then he promptly offered to buy me this bodysuit in every color possible!  What a love.  If you wish to make someone in your life breathless, I suggest the new Breathless Bodysuit but 1 Hundred.  It is very versatile and can be worn to create a variety of moods from romantic to edgy.  The Breathless Bodysuit dresses up well, I personally wore it with a black pencil skirt and heels.  The semi sheer lace is very delicate, comes with all clothing layers, and can be worn with or without mesh breasts.

I am sitting upon the The Imperator, a Medieval BDSM/Gorean throne in mesh by Splinter'd  the adult section of Roawenwood.  With 31 menus, 144set, and a total of 297 animations this throne promises a plethora of RP and BDSM pleasure.  The Imperator has both Master and Mistress menus with an amazing amount of fetish and sex menus. To really appreciate The Imperator teleport over to Roawenwood and take it for a test drive.  For 1 week the Imperator was set to 50% off and I am not sure when that sale started or when it will end. 

The hair I am wearing is HAIR 10 by Eaters Coma, my skin is by Glam Affair , my boots are Carazon by ISON, and I am wearing the Hydra Necklace by Rozoregalia. 



Breathless Bodysuit @ 1 Hundred.
{RW} The Imperator : Medieval BDSM/Gorean MESH Throne v.1

The quote at the beginning of this blog is the first stanza
from Jade Baumgardner's poem Mistress, Mistress

1 HUNDRED.


A special shout out to my male model whom will remain unknown
lest Riot will hunt him down and cause grave bodily harm!
Sheesh he would not do this blog with me what did he expect?